We know that you want your wedding to be a great party. Most likely an unforgettable party that your guest will talk about it for many years. The good party, though, beside the food, the drinks and the music is all about the guests. Yes yes, your wedding guests. Who are finally will receive the wedding invitation and who not is absolutely up to you. What we will try to do it to guide you to the politest way to say to some of them “Sorry, but…”
- THE FRIEND YOU HAVEN’T TALKED IN AGES
It is this friend that you haven’t talked to since you both graduated, because it is true… sometimes to get apart from people you used to be very close just because your lives have now different paths. You have great memories to remember but the last years you haven’t talked at all. It is this friend that the moment you’ll announce your wedding (you can’t keep that a secret and sooner or later everyone will find out), she will get back in contact with you. She will joyfully congratulate you, after she will ask you about everything she has missed the last years, and of course she will imply how happy she would have been to share all these amazing moments with you.
What do you do? Simply, tell her kindly that your wedding has a limited budget, but before she gets completely disappointed, tell her that after the wedding you will be more than happy to get together and catch up. There is the moment you will realize if she really wants to see you and learn all your news or is just another wedding-freak.
- YOUR BOSS AND YOUR COLLEAGUES
Hmm… that’s a tough one but no as hard as you think. It is true that probably you will see them everyday up until your wedding day. It is an event you just can’t keep it secret. And of course you will be surprised by the number of those that will take it guaranteed that they’ll get an invitation.
Take a deep breath and open your ears! You are not obliged to invite anyone of them, and if you want to invite some it doesn’t mean you have to invite all of them. Just keep in mind that if someone asks just say that the budget is limited. If you still feel guilty then after the wedding bring desserts for everyone at the office and sweeten them up! Piece of cake… literally!
- RELATIVES THAT YOU DON’T KNOW
This is the really hard part! So, you have a second cousin that you haven’t talked to since you were 6 years old. But your parents and her parents are in better terms than you two. What do you do? You will need lots of negotiation skills for that, especially if your parents are the ones that pay for your wedding. The only solution is to talk with them before starting making guests lists.
Explain to your parents that you’d prefer to have to your wedding really close people to you. Understand their place and suggest they have a family dinner after the wedding with all the relatives they want. Good food makes everything better. Extra tip: if your parents insist unfortunately you walk on thin ice and we suggest to just do them a favor an invite all the relatives they want!